WOD in Italy & My Adventures in Israel

I thought that by staying up till 1am on my first night back in Toronto that I would be able to beat the jet lag and be rested enough to get back to life.

It’s now Friday night and I am still having a hard time thinking clearly and keeping my eyes open.

Whatttttever.

Totally and completely worth it.

As you all know, my mom and I went to Italy so that I could speak at the World Ostomy Day conference for the FAIS [Federazione Associazioni Incontinenti e Stomizzati], otherwise known as the Italian Osomy Association. The conference was held at a hotel in Montesilvano, a city 2 hours outside of Rome.

The purpose of my trip was to make a presentation on my story and about this campaign, as well as participate in a “talk show” style presentation in front of the 1000 attendees, composed of both ostomates and medical professionals alike. Since I did not know a word of Italian, the organization set me up with a wonderful translator. She not only helped translate the conversation between myself and individuals who came up to speak to me, but she actually stood beside me on stage while I read my speech. She translated every single sentence of mine to the audience. She did an amazing job.

Click here to see pictures from the event!

I was already so honored and delighted to have been asked to attend this event that I didn’t think it could have been better-but I was so wrong. The hospitality that I received while I was there was above and beyond anything I’ve ever experienced. Not only did my hosts for this event ensure that I had a bed to sleep in and food to eat, but they went out of their way to shower me with thoughtful gifts and kind and meaningful words. I was there for just 2 days, but I felt like I had been there for months.

Sadly, before I knew it, the event was over and my mom and I left Italy to take a vacation in Israel.

When I knew I was going to Italy to speak, I suggested to my mother that we take the opportunity to visit Israel. I had never been, (though I had almost gone twice) and I knew it was something I had to do. She agreed, and we booked our flights to go once the conference was over.

Unfortunately, our flight to Israel actually had a 4 hour stopover in the Istanbul airport, so the trip was much longer than it needed to be. Running on a high from the conference, though, I didn’t mind it too much. Besides, the in-flight safety video on our flight made up for it, completely:

[It's not in English, but it's pretty easy to understand. Watch it. Seriously. It's adorable]

After a long day of traveling, my mom and I arrived in Israel and were picked up by our cousins who brought us back to their house. They had graciously offered us accommodations for the week and we were thrilled.

I was especially excited about staying in their house because they have two daughters; one a year older and one a year younger than me. The three of us had always gotten along on the few occasions that they had visited Canada, but, because of the distance, we never had the chance to spend time together. I was excited to actually get to know them.

I can’t tell you how happy I am that I did.

My cousins are the kindest sweetest girls I have ever met. They went out of their way to make sure I was comfortable in their home, they took me around the city, they booked off work to make sure they had time to spend with me, and they even refused to let me pay for anything (and yelled at me if I tried.)

The two of them cared about me so much that one night, when we were planning to go out, they noticed I was tired. They knew with my disease that if I got too tired, I could get sick. So while we were getting ready to head to a bar, the two of them sat me down, gave me straight faces, and asked me if I was sure I was ok to go out. They didn’t want me to get sick.

I felt like I had sisters.

There was very little time that I wasn’t hanging with either one of the sisters. Or, if I wasn’t hanging out with them, I was hanging out with a friend of theirs whom I had met before, and a new friend of theirs that I met on this trip; both amazing women. There was barely a moment during the week that wasn’t full of girl time. All we did was shop, lunch, and go out on the town.

My kind of vacation.

I’m not someone who really enjoys the touristy crap you usually get on foreign vacations so I loved the chance to experience Israel from a local point of view with these amazing girls.

Ok, so apparently you can’t go to a foreign land without doing a bit of touristy crap, so my mother and I, with the guidance of our cousins, did do some site seeing. Luckily, we managed to do it all in one day. In this one day we saw the Dead Sea, Mt. Masada, the Wailing Wall, and the Tower of David. Though the experience was your typical tourist experience, I did actually enjoy it a lot. Who knew?

My mother and I also made sure that, on this trip, we set some time away to visit my aunt, my late father’s sister, who also lives in Israel with her large family, yet in a different city than the family we were staying with. Though I have seen my aunt and a few of my cousins a number of times in Toronto, I had never been visited their home. It was nice to be able to see where she lived. The experience of being there was also a little surreal because I ended up  meeting a first cousin of mine, who is my age, whom I don’t remember ever meeting and vice versa. It was about time!

The week was so jam packed full of activities and traveling and dining out and drinking that I didn’t have a second to sit down, or even sleep. I actually think I slept an average of 4 hours a night. I did get a small nap in while my mom and I laid out on the beach on our last day of the trip, but that was in no way enough to catch me up for all the sleep I had missed.

But sleep? On vacation? No way. I only had one week there and I wasn’t going to miss a thing.

So now, Friday night, I sit writing this blog as I yawn every couple of minutes,  remembering all the fun I had. Going to Italy to speak and meet wonderful people. Having an amazing week in a new country with adopted sisters. This was a once in a lifetime adventure that I am so thankful to have had.

Will I ever have it again? Probably not.

Will I forget it? Never.

Ok, now seriously, excuse me while I sleep forever.

The Holiday Season

Oh the holiday season.

I guess for me, this season will always bring the good and the not-so-good emotions.

This time of year is a mix of emotions between enjoying time with the loved ones in your life but is also about remembering those who are no longer with you.

This weekend when I was home in Toronto I celebrated Channukah with both sides of my family. We went to my Bubbie’s house [My father’s mother] for our usual Friday night dinner. This time though, it was accompanied by latkas [the traditional jewish food during this holiday] and gifts. Saturday  too, included latkas and gifts with my mother’s side of the family.

I hadn’t really been around my family for a few months since I had moved back to school, so it was a nice change. I missed everyone and enjoyed spending quality time with them.

Even though it has been a while since his passing, it has still been hard celebrating the holidays without my dad. I don’t really know how to put it into words, and I don’t know if I can, but it was hard.

To top it all off, yesterday, I received an email from a family with a picture attached. The mother of the family had emailed me explaining  how she had met my father. Apparently, the family had met my dad at Princess Margaret Hospital when my he was in for weekly blood transfusions and their daughter was in for treatments. The mother had told me how much fun my dad had been and what a great person he was. Attached to the email, was a picture of an ornament they had made of my father to put on their special “angel” tree. This tree has 12 ornaments of people they had met and who had passed over the past two years who they consider heroes.

I guess I didn’t really realize how much I missed my dad during the holidays until I received the email, last night, during my sorority holiday potluck dinner. I read the email as it came to my blackberry while sitting at a table with a bunch of my sisters. The email was so touching that I actually cried at the table. Luckily, I was able to hide it. However, in an instant my tears were quickly turned to laughs when a sister made a joke. The laughs reminded me of the love within my circle of friends and reminded me to cherish the time I had with them.

Last night was definitely a great moment during this holiday season. Of course I had an amazing time with my family back at home, but last night was special as well. At 6pm yesterday evening, our house began to fill with girls and food as we all prepared to feast for our holiday potluck. There were almost 50 girls present, each with a separate dish in hand. There was tons of food and laughter, and I had a great time.

Though this is really only the beginning of the holiday season, I have already experienced an overwhelming amount of joy and love. I am so lucky to have such special people in my life and I couldn’t be happier.

This holiday season, please appreciate the loved ones around you.

<3

It’s so Much Fun-akkah to Celebrate Hanukkah

I just wanted to wish a very happy Hanukkah to my fellow Jews out there!

I am currently home for a few days to celebrate the holiday with my family. Friday night, I have a dinner with my father’s side of the family and Saturday with my mom’s. I’m looking forward to spending time with everyone since I haven’t seen them in quite some time. Aandddd I may or may not be excited for gifts as well! Haha.

It’s also really nice to be home to relax. I’ve had an extremely busy few weeks between my assignments and sorority things so I figured this was the perfect excuse to go home and take a break. Well… “break” is a relative term, since I have 3 essays due at the beginning of the week. AWESOME.

Anyways, I have to get back to spending time with my motherrrr. We’re watching our soap opera on the PVR together.

Oh, one last thing!

If anyone wants to be realllllyyyyy nice and give me a present for the holidays, I’ve been in need of a YouTube wallpaper thingy for my account. Since I’ve started video blogging more, I feel like my “channel” needs to be spiced up a bit. So if anyone has any photoshop skills and wants to make me a special Uncover Ostomy background for it, I would be extremely grateful!

Oh and in the spirit of the Holidays, here is my favourite Holiday song!

Happy Passoverrrr

Just wanted to send a quick message out to my fellow tribemates and wish you all a chag sameach aka happy Passover!

Passover is definitely one of my favourite holidays. The family, the songs, and the fooood. I know most people complain about Passover food, but I seriously love it! [Especially since the matzah doesn’t even make me constipated! Thanksssss ostomy haha]

Oh, for those who don’t know, matzah is a flatbread made with no yeast. We’re not allowed to eat anything with yeast for a week. The whole reason for that [long story short] is that when the Jews were freed from Egypt back in the day, they had to get their butts out as fast as they could in case the Pharoh changed his mind about letting them go. They left so fast that the bread they were making didn’t have time to rise, so it was flat. Hence; matzah.

Anyways, the story of Passover is so much longer and includes frogs and blood and the parting of the red sea etc etc. Makes a nice bedtime story actually. And movie. Charlton Hesston in the 10 Commandments? Amazing.

But yeah, just wanted to say happy holidaysssssssss. Enjoy the brisket.

 

Late Night Ramblings

Yes, I realize I just posted a blog, but that was more of an informational type post. This one’s more of a thinking post.

I just spent the late 40 minutes filling out a questionnaire for my friend Leah, who is writing an article about myself and my family and Uncover Ostomy. She asked some pretty  intense questions, one’s I hadn’t really taken the time to think about until now. I’m glad she asked them though, and I’m glad I answered them with nothing else to do but watch the time change on my computer for daylight savings time.

The one question that really made me think, was this one:

11. What’s the most important thing your Mom and/or Dad ever taught you?

It actually took me a very long time to think about. How you can just pinpoint the most important lesson your parents have taught you? Every lesson they teach is important [no matter how much you whine and think you're smarter than them, they really do know what they're talking about.]

This was the answer that I came up with:

“My parents taught me tons of things, it’s hard to type them all out.. But some things that stick out are that the people who love you will always be there for you and that I always need to try my best, and even if my best isn’t the best, it still counts for just the same.”

After thinking about the question and then thinking about my life over the past few weeks, these are the things that really stuck out. Probably because they are the most relevant, but more likely because they are always true.

As I answered all Leah’s questions about my disease and how I dealt with it, I thought about all the time and effort and support my parents gave me during that time. It was definitely not easy for them, having a kid spend the majority of two years in the hospital and making sure that there was ALWAYS one parent who slept over. It also couldn’t have been easy to sleep at night knowing their child was sick. Or easy knowing they had another child to worry about as well. And knowing they had to keep each other around. And knowing that they didn’t know what the road ahead would entail.

They stuck it out because they love me.

And even though my dad is gone now, I know that he’s still sticking it out for me.

I wrote down the second lesson that they taught me, about trying your best, because I feel like sometimes I need to remember that. Well, in university, you always have to think like that and I’ve been forgetting. It’s hard to get a mark back that you aren’t happy with but know how much effort and study time you put in. Sure, the marks may not help you graduate [ok, I didn't do thattttt badly, I'm just saying for the sake of argument], but you can’t really do more than try. Life is like that too. You can’t make everyone happy, but you can try with everything you have. Trying is what matters, not the end result.

These two lessons are probably the most important lessons that I’ll have ever learned.

Thanks parents.

What is Channukah?

So I was just perusing the blog [clearly procrastinating.... but in my defense it's 2:30 am] and someone had asked what Channukah is.

 

I thought everyone knew?

 

Well Channukah is the Jewish festival of lights. We celebrate it around Christmas time. It involves presents, food, and family. The back story is long but pretty much, the Jews got saved by Judah Macabee and his Macabee team. We light candles because the town was lit by a large candlabra [menora] and there was not going to be enough oil to continue to light this menora for the week, which would mean the town would be in the dark. Because of a mircale, the oil lit the menora for the entire week.. We celebrate that.

 

Don’t know how helpful that was haha. But yes, hope everyone is having a wonderful Channukah time and has gotten some good presents and enjoyed the food [since I can't- being stuck at university doing exams :( ]

 

PS I apologize if this doesn’t make sense. I may edit accordingly if I read it tomorrow morning [today?] Gotta love exam time.

“Blog Detailing My Life”

A few hours ago, my wonderful friend and sorority sister, Amy, left me a facebook wall post telling me she liked reading my philosophical blogs and that my posts detailing my life were good too, especially when she’s procrastinating from studying.

Well right now, I am procrastinating as well.

Because I love Amy soooo much I’ll give in and write vent.

It’s nice to know someone actually likes when I detail my personal life. At first, I thought people found it annoying. Maybe some do, but if at least one person actually likes hearing about my life, well that’s good enough… I guess. Well whatever, I’m going to do it anyways.

Where to start…

Well, I’m currently procrastinating from studying for my 4 exams this week. I have one Sunday night, Monday afternoon, Wednesday afternoon, and Friday night. Shoot me?

The two back to back on Sunday and Monday are going to be awful, so I’m not looking forward to those. My Wednesday one isn’t too bad. My Friday one, well, I just have to get lucky-it could go either way EVEN if I know the material like the back of my hand [this one’s my honors class for my program and the prof and TAs decided they could mark howeverrr they liked even if you answered things correctly... gah]

The only thing getting me through exams right now is the fact that on December 21st I am flying all the way to Punta Cana with my mom and my brother for an amazing week of tanning, drinking, relaxing etc etc etc. I’m super excited. Especially since the fam hasn’t gone on a vacation in about 3 years. Every winter break since 1st year I’ve gone back to Toronto to work at either Hollister/Abercrombie and Moxies, or in the case of last year-both. It will be nice to not have to work this time. It’ll also be nice to spend some family time together. Weird without dad- but nice.

One thing that sucks about this winter break is that I don’t get to celebrate the holidays with my family. Tonight marks the first night of Channukah and I’m… well clearly not home celebrating. No candles or latkas or driedles or anything for me…stupid exams… Ah well, I think tonight I’m going to my friend Lauren’s place to light candles together. If I get enough studying done that is…

To add more to the blog of my life, and since everyone in my life seems to already know, I might as well update the website on my relationship status- I am currently single. Again. And for some reason, my Facebook friends list decided to have a field day and comment on the change… Not very nicely I might add, so I had to delete [I still love you all, though]. I know I never really spoke much about my relationship so I wont go into detail, out of courtesy and so I don’t have to go into a very very very long explanation I’ll just say….the situation is unfortunate…

I’m not going to lie and pretend to be all super strong Jess like I normally do with ended relationships [that I get over in a day usually]. This one’s not like that. I am upset. I am mad. I am disappointed. I am sad. And I am very very worried. I just don’t like any situation where I can’t change things that clearly need to be changed. It’s a weird place to be in. I guess there’s nothing I can do now.

Except study for exams.

Ok sooo I’ve been taking notes on Chapter 6 in my textbook for a combined like 7 hours now and am STILL not done. Better get back to it…

 

Happy Channukah fellow members of the tribe <3

PS this post is dedicated to Amy